Here are Four Options
1. Speak with a safe confidant, ideally a colleague who has been through a similar experience, someone to whom you can express your frustrations and who, in return, can provide you insight given his or her experience. This should be a person who is outside of the congregation. The further away, the better. Confidentiality is critically important.
2. If your church has a non-disciplinary grievance procedure use it.
3. Prayerfully consider looking for a new ministry. Developing a secure fall-back (or fall-forward) position should provide you with a greater sense of confidence in dealing with your current situation. Request a free list of websites I developed that advertise ministry openings.
4. Be Coached. (You do the work, I assist). If you feel you are being treated disrespectfully, unjustly, etc., and option 2 is not available, you may choose to tackle the conflict directly. Developing a strategy to do this is no easy task. You will want to voice your concern while being mindful of the well-being of all involved (including the congregation). I provide expert coaching that will help you thread this needle.
Call me at 301-253-8877 to discuss your situation
